By Eve Hermann, Chattanooga, Tenn., — It’s 2 p.m. on a Saturday, and I am waking up from what can only be described as a too much socializing and food induced sleep coma.
I feel fine, honest. But shortly after waking up the weight of everything I wanted to accomplish long before 2 p.m. on Saturday hits me and the hijinks ensue. I look at my messy room, cluttered with clothes and coffee mugs, sigh, and then rush to get ready because I can’t work looking like a ragamuffin. Nanny always said that was a no-no.
Moments like this, when my responsibilities and obligations hit me are friendly little reminders that no matter how hard I try to avoid it: I am becoming a real, big A-word. That’s right my friends, your girl Eve is becoming an Adult.
Becoming the big A-word is coupled with being an upperclassman. Once you are an upperclassman adulthood comes in your life, uninvited, and hands you a perfect gelatin mold (except it’s not perfect because this is a weird metaphor). Eventually you realize this gelatin mold really sucks, just like this metaphor, ahem, moving on.
My plunge into adulthood is a subject I like to casually avoid on the regular by doing childish things, like writing commentaries for the Echo. I know this sounds platitudinal, it is, but maybe it will help you if you are struggling with coming to terms with adulthood.
Your energy level is different
The tired you feel when you are an upperclassman compared to the tired you feel when you are a freshman are two totally different types of tired. When I was a freshman I could easily make it through the day on two hours of sleep. Nowadays you can’t expect a coherent sentence out of me until I have at least seven hours. It’s a phenomenon really. I miss the infinite amounts of energy I had when I was a freshman dearly.
You are at a crossroads
The metaphor behind the Britney Spears movie “Crossroads” becomes a reality — sort of. Only instead of being in between girlhood and womanhood (or however you identify yourself), you are between being a student and being an adult.
When you are an upperclassman you start dipping your toes into the deep end of your life. The deep end is called adulthood. Your grades are no longer what are most important. What’s more important is making sure you’re getting your calories from actual food, not alcoholic drinks. What’s more important is making a name for yourself.
Being an upperclassman means learning how you work with other people and where you fit into this crazy world, not as a student but as an adult.
Sometimes you have to be selfish
Being an upperclassman means being selfish sometimes. And this is the hardest fact I have had to come to terms with but it is so critical to our young adult lives. Being selfish doesn’t mean not caring about other people, it means putting your needs, beliefs and happiness first. It no longer matters what your parents, friends or cool aunt has to say about your life. It’s not up to them. It’s not up to anyone but yourself.